learning to be responsible takes a lifetime--it takes a lot of experience and observation--in the meantime, we use our best judgment 
a friend suggests this question when i'm in a quandary --"I wonder, what course is in my highest and best good?"
The "I wonder" portion of the question is essential--it kicks the question out of the logical brain into the subconscious where the best "thinking" takes place--trying to consciously analyze something, just jams up the process
ask the "I wonder" question and then put the issue on a box in the closet of your mind and let the subconscious go after it, then follow your gut.
Hitting the 'REFRESH' button on life. The archives of the first years of my journey to the Northwest... and the recent activities and thoughts that make this, My Great Northwestern Adventure....